How to Call in Your ‘One’

Become Your Authentic Self, and Love

Has your heart been broken too many times?

Do you feel that you just attract the wrong person all the time?

You can awaken to love with yourself, with others and with life in general that will allow you to attract a completely different person than who you have been attracting so far.

In Calling in ‘The One’ᵀᴹ you learn how you’ve been showing up in ways that have led you to create the life as you’ve experienced it so far. But what if you can be empowered to create the love in your life you’d love to experience?

The way to start is by changing your relationship to yourself. This in turn, will result in your relationships with others transforming as well.

Making sure you don’t get lost on the journey is important. For this, it’s essential to make sure you keep the end in mind. As they say, ‘no wind is favourable to the sailor with no destination in mind’.

Step 1 Preparing for Love

You make a commitment to growing your capacity to love and be loved. In order to make sure you don’t get lost along the way, you want to set an Intention for what it is you want to create in your life. The Intention serves as your North Star, giving you direction when the winds want to throw you off course

From this you start to look at how the culture around you has an impact on your (and other people’s) ability to create healthy, loving and meaningful relationships. You then start to explore and expand your capacity for creating healthy interdependence with the people in your life.

As you cultivate a vision of happy, healthy love in your life, you learn how you can organise your life around a future of love fulfilled and then start to take action in accordance with it.

Step 2 Completing the Past

Getting down to business of identifying and releasing the things that get in your way when it comes to love, you start by looking at the unfinished business of your past.

For one thing, when you gain a relationship in your life, you usually need to let go of certain things in your life.

You start looking at toxic relational dynamics from your past, as well as any old agreements from past relationships that might still have an influence over you and possibly get in the way of you creating a healthy relationship in your life.

You also want to look at any resentments that may have been weighing you down. In order to create a new experience of happy, healthy love, you need to make sure nothing gets in the way of it.

Look at some of the wounds you’ve experienced in the past, in order to create an opening for love.

Step 3 Healing Your Core Wounds

This week you’ll start to identify some of the core beliefs that are getting in the way of you attracting and being available to the kind of love that you deserve in your life. The goal of identifying these beliefs is to realise your worthiness of love, happiness and respect.

From this new place, you learn to relate from a healthier place, having a more real perspective of who you are, what’s possible for you to create and sustain love.

You want to identify what happened to you in the past, or what you were lacking back then, and how it is connected to how love shows up, or doesn’t, for you now.

You then want to explore how you interpreted what happened to you in the past and what you made it mean about yourself. And come to an understanding of what really true about these beliefs you’ve been carrying around.

From here you can investigate how these beliefs have been affecting the choices you’ve made and how you’ve shown up in relationship and in life. Understanding what’s really true about these beliefs can then help you see a different way of relating you can carry into the future.

Some of the new ways of relating may seem unfamiliar or even scary to you, but this if often because you lack certain skills or capacities that make it possible for you.

Finally, you’ll end this week with a Release Ceremony to clear away the hidden barrier you’ve uncovered over the last few weeks, so you can be free to move forward to realising your vision.

Step 4 Setting Your Course

After releasing all those obstacles to love in your life, you can now look at how you can consciously create the relationship you want in your life.

You start by looking at your intention and how you can stand in the vision of your future that includes a loving relationship with the partner of your dreams.

At this stage, you want to get clearer about what it is that you’re looking in your future partner by identifying your sense of purpose in life and your core values.

You also want to learn to connect to your intuition to help guide you in making decisions that are in alignment with the future you want to create, as well as establishing your personal integrity.

Step 5 First Things First

This is about loving yourself before you can love another, or receive love from another. The thing is, how do you love yourself?

To start with, you want to make a commitment to yourself. This commitment to yourself can be very different from the commitment that someone else makes to themselves. It is unique.

From this commitment you want to cultivate a greater emotional intimacy with yourself by increasing your awareness of your emotions and how they are affecting you. You also want to increase your ability to meet your own needs, and make sure that you don’t overgive to others while forgetting about yourself.

One of the things that happens when you start living into your vision for the future is that you will get triggered, meet disappointments, and you want to learn how you can bring yourself back to you again.

In order to bring a relationship into your life, you may also need to heal your relationship with your body. You want to appreciate all that your body does for you, even the bits that you may not like very much.

This may feel a bit counter-intuitive, but you want to learn to be alone with yourself. Having the capacity to be alone, is actually an important part of preparing yourself to be autonomous within a healthy relationship.

Step 6 A Life Worth Living

Why wait to be happy until you’re in a relationship? Your life is worth living now, with or without a relationship. If you think you’ll magically become happy once you’re in a relationship, you might actually find it harder to find someone to be in relationship with.

One of the reasons is that you tend to be more attractive when you’re happy with yourself, your body and your life.

Some of the ways in which you can cultivate happiness in your life is by practicing being generous with others, and practicing being grateful for all the things that are already present in your life.

You want to cultivate communication skills with yourself and with others in your life that show how much you value yourself and others, deepen your ability to listen and communicate in order to deepen connection with others.

By showing up in new ways like this, you can leave those old beliefs that were holding you back before behind you, and create a new level of intimacy with the people in your life.

Step 7 Living Love Fulfilled

Making sure that you are set up to not fall back into old habit, you learn how you can see obstacles, setbacks, disappointments and delays as opportunities to grow and develop into a more loving version of yourself.

You want to learn how to make sure you keep your heart light and open to love, and how to make sure that you make decisions that are in integrity with who you are and what your values are.

One way to make sure, is to be vigilant about when the old beliefs try to creep back into your consciousness again, as well as learning to tap into your intuition.

In a one-on-one coaching programme, you will discover how your old limiting beliefs got in the way and how to cultivate new, more helpful beliefs that will inspire you to show up differently in life. These new ways of showing up are based on a healthy and deep self-love. This then opens you up to possibilities you couldn’t see before.

If you want to learn more about what it’s like to do the Calling in ‘The One’ᵀᴹ programme with me as a coach, please do not hesitate to get in touchto book a Discovery Call.